01 · SEE
See the pattern beneath the pattern.
Your NEXUS Profiles reveal how each of you is wired to give love, handle stress, make decisions, and pursue what matters.
The Marriage Design Catalyst
Reserve Your SpotA two-day NEXUS experience for couples
The two of you aren't the problem. The translation is.
The Marriage Design Catalyst is a two-day couples intensive that uses the Human NEXUS to show you exactly how each of you is wired — so you can stop misreading each other, speak in a language you both actually receive, and build a marriage that fits the two of you.
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December 4–5, 2026Two full days together
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Bozeman, MontanaVenue announced soon
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For couples at every stageDating-serious to decades in
Not another feel-good weekend.You'll leave with real tools and a written plan you can use Monday morning.
Why the same fight keeps coming back
The fight is never really about the dishes.
Under every recurring argument, two people are protecting two different needs — and reading the same moment through two different filters. Until you can see those filters clearly, you'll keep working hard to solve the wrong problem.
✓You keep having the same argument in a hundred different costumes.
✓You're both genuinely trying — and it still doesn't land as love.
✓One of you needs to move; the other needs to feel safe first.
✓You want closeness and better communication — without turning your marriage into a project.
✓You need tools that hold up at 7am on an ordinary Tuesday, not just in the room.
02 · TRANSLATE
Say it so it actually lands.
Learn to turn your intent into language your partner can receive — without either of you having to become someone else.
03 · BUILD
Leave with a plan, not just a feeling.
Practice the tools together and build a written relationship plan you'll still be using long after Bozeman.
The unfair advantage
Most advice tells you what to do. The NEXUS shows you who you're doing it with.
Every couple gets the same tips — listen better, be patient, communicate. But a tip you can't translate into your marriage is just pressure. The Human NEXUS starts one level deeper. Each of you completes a NEXUS Profile that reveals your design: the way you're naturally wired to connect, decide, handle conflict, and love. When you can finally see each other accurately, the same marriage stops feeling like a mystery and starts making sense.
DRIVER
Loves by solving problems and building a better future together. Feels most connected when the two of you are moving forward.
INFLUENCER
Loves through conversation, encouragement, and shared joy. Feels most connected when there's warmth and real presence.
SOLUTIONARY
Loves by understanding deeply and thinking things through together. Feels most connected when things finally make sense.
STABILIZER
Loves through loyalty, steadiness, and showing up the same way every day. Feels most connected when things feel safe and secure.
Most of us love our partner the way we'd want to be loved. The shift that changes everything: love them the way they're actually wired to receive it.
Two days can create clarity. What you build from that clarity creates momentum.
This is built to be engaging, interactive, and genuinely enjoyable. You won't just listen to good ideas — you'll apply them, practice them with each other, and turn them into specific choices for your relationship.
Designed for real life
Different doesn't have to mean disconnected.
The goal was never to make the two of you identical. It's to help you understand each other accurately enough to honor your differences, lower the friction, and move in the same direction on purpose.
ClarityUnderstand what's actually happening instead of debating the surface forever.
ConnectionRestore warmth, belonging, and the feeling that you're on the same team.
AlignmentTranslate two different designs into agreements that fit both of you.
MomentumMove toward the intimacy, partnership, and life you both want.
The two-day experience
Learn it. Practice it. Build it together.
Day One · See the system
Discover your individual design and the filters you each bring into marriage.
Name the needs and values sitting underneath your recurring conflicts.
Tell the difference between intent, impact, interpretation, and response.
Map the patterns that spark friction, escalation, withdrawal, and distance.
Start building a shared language for the hard conversations.
Day Two · Build the direction
Practice listening, validation, repair, and reconnection — for real, with each other.
Explore emotional safety, healthy differentiation, intimacy, and honest connection.
Turn insight into specific agreements and repeatable rhythms.
Build your custom relationship plan in your printed workbook.
Leave knowing exactly what to do the next time the old pattern starts.
The schedule
Two focused days, with room to breathe.
We designed the pace on purpose — full, engaging sessions balanced by generous breaks, so it never becomes overwhelming or exhausting. You'll have real time to rest, talk, and actually absorb what you're learning.
Friday
Day One · See the system
10:00 AM – 12:00 PM
Session One
12:00 – 1:30 PM
Lunch break (on your own)
1:30 – 5:30 PM
Session Two
5:30 – 7:30 PM
Dinner break (on your own)
7:30 – 9:30 PM
Session Three
Saturday
Day Two · Build the direction
9:30 AM – 12:00 PM
Session Four
12:00 – 2:00 PM
Lunch break (on your own)
2:00 – 5:00 PM
Session Five
A note on meals: Lunch and dinner aren't provided — and that's intentional. We built in unhurried breaks so the two of you can share a meal, take a walk, and enjoy Bozeman between sessions. This weekend is meant to be restorative, not a rushed, exhausting marathon.
Your registration includes
Far more than a weekend away.
Every piece is designed to turn insight into progress you can actually live out.
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A full NEXUS Profile for both partnersThe complete profile experience for each of you, so self-understanding and translation are accurate, not guesswork.
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Your custom printed couple's workbookBuild your shared language, goals, agreements, and relationship plan as you go.
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30 days of KAVIX Together — two full accounts, one shared directionEach partner gets their own full KAVIX account to think, process, and grow privately, while the two of you gain a shared tool for communication, NEXUS translation, decision-making, and relational progress.
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Up to four additional NEXUS ProfilesInvite family members and grow understanding across the relationships that matter most.
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Two full days of guided facilitation + all materialsLed by Chris Behnke and licensed couples therapist Chip Kern.
Before you register
Is this the right room for you?
This is for you if…
You're committed to each other and want to go further, not just survive.
You're tired of the same loop and ready to understand why it happens.
You want practical tools you'll still use a year from now.
You're at any stage — seriously dating, newlywed, or decades in.
This probably isn't for you if…
You're looking for someone to referee who's right and who's wrong.
You want passive advice you can nod at and forget.
You're facing active danger or crisis — that deserves direct professional help first.
Meet your facilitators
Strategic design meets couples-therapy expertise.
This experience pairs practical, NEXUS-based relationship translation with clinically informed couples education and skill-building — insight and application.
Chris Behnke
Creator of the Human NEXUS · Lead facilitator
Chris and his wife have been married — and building businesses together — for nearly 30 years, so he teaches marriage partnership from the inside, not just the whiteboard. He created the Human NEXUS more than 16 years ago; since then, thousands of people around the world have used the NEXUS Profile to understand how they're wired. He's worked with organizations at every level, from brand-new startups to publicly traded companies, is a two-time best-selling author (including one international best-seller), and has served on boards across education, software, and nonprofits.
Chip Kern
Licensed couples therapist · EFT & Gottman-trained
A licensed therapist since 2008, Chip specializes in couples work grounded in the field's most trusted approaches — Emotion Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method — with additional advanced training in trauma and relational healing. He brings a calm, steady, non-judgmental presence: a space where two people can be completely honest without fear of judgment. Chip holds a bachelor's from Boston University and a master's in Mental Health Counseling from Montana State University, is licensed in Montana and Utah, and serves as a continuing-education provider and clinical supervisor.
What people say about working with Chris
★★★★★
"Chris turned input into plans with real short- and long-term impact."
Amir YazdaniFormer CIO, Rentrak Corp
★★★★★
"Blew the competition out of the water. If you want to take your organization to the next level, Chris is your guy."
Dr. Daniel HuldSuperintendent, Baker Charter Schools
★★★★★
"When you need someone who can speak to the 'whole' of a business, Chris belongs on your short list. I recommend him highly."
Robert RicciardelliFounder, Converging Zone Network
Important: This is an educational and experiential couples intensive — not couples counseling, and not a replacement for individual or couples therapy. Couples experiencing active danger, coercion, threats, or severe instability should seek appropriate professional support before attending.
Real people, real change
What understanding by design actually does.
★★★★★
"I thought my husband and I were total opposites, but it helped me realize how much we actually share — and watching him step into his natural design was powerful. It impacted our marriage so much, I knew I had to share it with others."
Patty MyersDirector
★★★★★
"Understanding how each of us is wired brought a new level of respect and love into our marriage. It's helped me embrace the best of who I am — and who my husband is. It's also changed how I see my children."
Amy CurtisAttendee
★★★★★
"We argue less — and we understand each other more. As a couple who works together, the NEXUS Profile helped us divide responsibilities in a way that fits how we're each wired. It deepened our connection and brought more peace into our everyday lives."
Dan PiskieSmall Business Owner
"The goal isn't a temporary emotional high. It's a new way to understand each other, communicate, and move forward — together."
★★★★★
"If you're on the fence about whether you should do this — you should. I've taken a lot of other tests that claim to do what this one does; none of them worked. This one actually works."
Jason MuskAttendee
★★★★★
"It's helpful to realize we're all in this together, trying to make the best of it. Having the tools to actually do that is pennies on the dollar for what you get out of the NEXUS Profile."
Troy SmithSmall Business Owner
★★★★★
"Anyone looking at investing in this — so worth it! The more we invest in ourselves with our time, money, and training, the better off we'll be. You'll feel the benefits so quickly!"
Jan SchaffnerAttendee
Testimonials reflect experiences with the NEXUS Profile and prior NEXUS workshops.
Questions couples ask
Clear expectations make a better experience.
Is this couples therapy?
No. It's an educational, experiential intensive that teaches practical tools and gives you structured time to practice together. It doesn't replace therapy, diagnosis, or clinical treatment.
Will we have to share private details with the group?
No. You'll work primarily with each other. You'll never be required to disclose personal stories to the whole room.
Is this a religious event?
No. This experience is secular-friendly and uses accessible language about design, needs, communication, intimacy, and shared direction.
What stage of marriage is this for?
Any. Seriously dating, newly married, or decades in — the NEXUS works the same way, and every couple builds a plan that fits where they are.
What if we're in a really hard place right now?
Many couples come precisely because something feels stuck. That said, if you're facing active danger or crisis, please seek direct professional support first.
Where in Bozeman will it be held?
The venue is being finalized; it will be in Bozeman, Montana, and hotel details will be published the moment they're confirmed.
Will there be a livestream or recording?
No — this is a fully in-person experience by design. The room, the practice with each other, and the uninterrupted time together are the whole point, so we keep it in person.
What's your refund policy?
Because we book the venue, reserve hotel space, and prepare your printed materials well in advance, all registrations are final. We know life happens, though — if your plans change, reach out to us and we'll do our best to help you transfer your spot to another couple.
Join us in Bozeman
Your marriage doesn't need more pressure. It needs better understanding, better language, and a shared direction.
Two days of clarity, practice, and real progress — and you leave with a plan that fits the two of you.
December 4–5, 2026 · Bozeman, Montana · Limited, intentionally small seating
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